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Monday, January 30, 2012

Communicating through ASL

This has probably been a familiar scene at some point in your home ... your young toddler child is sitting in the middle of the floor throwing a temper tantrum. Tears are streaming down her face, her nose is running and her hair is matted to her face. She's kicking the floor and screaming ... and you have absolutely no idea why. You have tried everything to calm her down and nothing has worked. Age appropriate? Of course. Frustrating for both of you? Definitely. Sometimes there really is no reason for the tantrum ... but maybe sometimes there is?

I think it's safe to say that one of the biggest frustrations for toddler-aged kiddos is lack of communication. Or it's at least been one of the biggest frustrations for
Sunshine since she came home from China last June. I am convinced that since we brought her home at 13 months old, she's known exactly what she wanted and how she wanted it. But given the language barrier, her young age, and her un-repaired cleft lip and palate ... well, there wasn't much communicating happening from her side.

Enter our non-verbal saving grace, American Sign Language (ASL). We had used a few signs with our biological children when they were
Sunshine's age, but mostly because I thought it was cool and seemed like a good thing to do. We didn't actually depend on the signs for communication. But with Sunshine, signs have pretty much become a way of life. I'm not just talking about the signs for "more" and "all done" ... I'm talking about complete non-verbal communication with ASL. Not full sentences mind you, but "toddler talk" using ASL. At 20 months old, our super-smarty-pants can sign over 40 words and the list keeps growing. She has a better vocabulary than my son did at her age. She can also understand just about everything we say, and thanks to ASL, she can respond appropriately using signs. And although we still have the typical toddler meltdowns, Sunshine's non-verbal communication skills have drastically cut them down.

It's a long list, but to give you a clear picture of
Sunshine's non-verbal capabilities ... here are the words she can sign and understand: hi/bye, yes/no, milk, bedtime, play, all done, eat, more, help, blanket, bath, come, napkin/tissue, wash, sorry, book, thank you, shoes, socks, car, mommy, daddy, brother, sister, dog, hat, stop, music, clean, diaper, wait, yogurt, baby, scared, ball, up, down, hurt and hair ... there may be more but this is the running list I have. She can point to the body parts on her face and I also have another handful of signs that I am working on teaching her: I love you, coat, happy, train, brush teeth, kiss, want, dance, sit, stand, banana, friend, gentle, outside, cat, color, and TV. And there are countless more I'd like to learn but I try to only introduce a few at a time. She can pick up some immediately after showing her just one time, others take longer. Some signs are used for multiple words, a few are ones that are not actually ASL (just made up over time), and some are Sunshine's toddler version of the sign. I'm happy to say that ASL has become a routine, necessary, easy part of our life.

Sunshine ASL was not always easy though. In fact, the first sign I taught her, "milk," was probably the most difficult. I started signing a few important words when we were in China but didn't really begin trying to teach them to her until we had been home for a few days. Every time we had her milk out to drink, I'd hold it in front of her and sign "milk." I even amazingly got her to imitate me doing it a few times. I did this ... a lot. All the time. Once I knew that she could consistently do the sign AND that she understood what she was doing, I only gave her the milk when she signed for it. There were definitely temper tantrums during this transitional period and it was tough ... a battle of wills on more than one occasion. Two strong-willed ladies both wanting different things made for interesting days. But within 2 weeks of being home, she was comfortably signing "milk" and it was absolutely effortless for her.

I continued to sign other words with her while talking, but didn't intentionally teach them to her for a little while. I wanted to make sure we had "milk" down cold before I slowly started introducing others. When she started to use "milk" for everything, I knew it was time to learn more. It was slow-going at first and certainly an uphill battle on many occasions, but worth every ounce of work.
Sunshine learned a burst of signs in late November/early December when she was 18 months old - she was picking up multiple signs each week! We also noticed a drastic reduction in her temper tantrums around that time. I think that part of it was just being more comfortable with us, but I can also attribute her behavior change to language acquisition.

Using ASL has been really fun for our two biological children as well - they can interpret what
Sunshine is saying for other people who don't understand it and they even help teach her signs! My oldest daughter learns some ASL at school and she is always excited to teach us the new words she has learned. Sunshine is still pretty non-verbal. She does not say any words, although she makes a few sounds that mimic words and she uses different tones extremely well. Sometimes I know what she wants just by the tone of her sound. She can say "ow" when something hurts and she makes an adorable "hu ha" sound when she wants me to sing to her. She can say "mamamama" but that's more mimicking a sound than an actual word. I expect that her verbal language will start developing when we begin speech therapy after her palate repair on February 21st. I really believe that all children could benefit from using ASL, whether they are speech-delayed or not. Research has even shown that verbal language acquisition is easier for children who know ASL!

Before you ask, no - I am not fluent in ASL and I did not know it before I had children. In fact, I only knew a handful of signs before we brought
Sunshine home. I have learned from a book, videos and yes, I'll say it ... an iPhone app :-) The resource I have leaned on the most is a great book called Teach Your Tot to Sign by Stacy A. Thompson. I have yet to look up a sign that wasn't in the book. I also like the Baby Signing Time videos because they show multiple children doing the signs in their own ways. The iPhone/iPad app that we have is called Baby Sign and Learn - it has digital cartoon-like babies that show the signs. There are many, many more resources out there for parents, theses are just the ones that I am using.

Communication with little ones is always difficult, whether they are biological or adopted. Now that
Sunshine has been home for 8 months, the initial language barrier is not an issue anymore. But there are still times when Sunshine is passionately signing a word and I have no idea what she's saying. I am so happy though, that she has the skills to be able to effectively communicate what she needs and wants. And if it's something we haven't signed yet, the information is only a book, video, or iPhone app away.

Thursday, January 19, 2012

The playroom

I wonder if the volume of pictures I take in pajamas is any indication of how much time we actually spend in pajamas?

Tuesday, January 17, 2012

Wacko for Flacco

I think no explanation is needed for this one. LOL. Love these 2 :-)

Saturday, January 14, 2012


Playing with my phone together ... or should I say that Lovebug was playing while Sunshine tried to take it away :-)

Thursday, January 12, 2012

Pajama day ... again

Seriously, pajama day should be *every* day when your kids have THIS much fun in them! Love these two together!

Tuesday, January 10, 2012

Hiding out

One of Sunshine's little hiding spots ... under the desk where I work. She is pretty fond of this spot. She typically has her blanket and baby under there but today it was better with blue earmuffs and doggie ... oh yeah and a good game of peek-a-boo never hurts either :-)

Monday, January 9, 2012

Comic Relief

I literally laughed out loud when I walked into the playroom and saw this toy stethoscope hanging off of Sunshine's overalls. No clue how she got it there. And instead of helping her? Yeah, I ran and got the camera to grab a quick snapshot ... just as any good & decent mom should :-)

Sunday, January 8, 2012

Sunday Snapshot {January Bliss}

It's January and about 60 degrees outside. Very uncommon, but we'll take it! The kids love it outside, so we made sure to get them out a lot yesterday. They played with our neighbors quite a bit and soaked in lots of fresh air. And ran around. (Or walked with squeeky shoes.) And drew with sidewalk chalk. And played with the sand table. And swung ... a lot. Yes, it was quite a blissful day.

The sun was setting while we were outside this time, so my shutter speed got pretty slow (resulting in a few blurry images), but I still wanted to share how much fun we had!

Sunday Snapshot

Friday, January 6, 2012

Hard Work

It's hard work being a 19-month old, isn't it? So much creative play to do!
This is her "leave me alone, I have stuff to do" look. LOL. Her teenage years will be extremely interesting.
(PS - I cannot get over her fine motor skills, especially when compared to her gross motor! Amazing!)

Wednesday, January 4, 2012

Too much

I caught him watching TV like ths. Oh this kid. Too much, I tell ya. Just too much. I love him to pieces!

Sunday, January 1, 2012


2012. It's that time of year again, isn't it? A new year. And new resolutions. I have two *basic* resolutions, which I believe will lead to more. But to keep it simple, I resolve to grow in my faith and relationship with my Heavenly Father ... to be more in the Word and to be thankful for all that He's blessed me with. AND, I resolve to be more present with my children and family.

I had thought out several different ways I would elaborate on these resolutions, but I think they pretty much speak for themselves. Plus I'll just find a way to make it complicated by writing about it. LOL. I'll be starting a 90-day New Testament reading with DH shortly (not a study, just a reading) and I am also going to be reading Ann Voskamp's One Thousand Gifts and writing down my "gifts" in this gorgeous journal I picked up at Greetings & Readings. I know the book is controversial in some ways, but I like the overall principle of living in thanks to our Lord for every. single. thing. Makes it pretty difficult to get upset about much of anything ... I'll let you know how that works out for me :-) LOL.

I have a feeling I will be saying "yes" more and "no" less ... in so many ways.
What are your resolutions this year?